When it comes to wooing a woman most guys are first class graduate in that field, while others are just chicken heads who run away every time they come in close range with a woman. Most of these guys are still single till date not minding that age is on their side. So to be a ladies man like the handsome Nollywood actor, Alexx Ekubo, here are some steps you should follow:
1. Overcome Your Inferiority
If you feel you are somehow “less valuable” than the girl, then you will feel shy and nervous around her. Focus on yourself and build confidence first, confidence come from within so when you build your confidence you become sure of yourself and who you are and you will also become 55% above being shy and fear of approaching women.
2. Being Less Experienced
Another way of feeling inferior is thinking that being less experienced than the girl with relationships will immediately make you repulsive to her.
The truth is, by having an attitude of feeling undeserving of more experienced girls, then you are only sabotaging yourself. If you have grown up somewhat shy and socially awkward, then it will be almost inevitable that most girls will be more experienced than you.
3. Stop Being Too Invested In One Particular Girl
If there’s one thing that all shy guys have in common, it’s that they have a tendency to pick one girl that may show them even the slightest interest an then become obsessed by her. Approach at least one woman per week that you do not know and start a conversation, no matter how small, the point of doing this is not to get a date or a phone number, at least not at first it is about overcoming the “shock” of approaching women that you do not know, and starting a conversation with her. “Soon, whatever fears that you might have will start to subside, and you will realize that it can actually be kind of easy to start a conversation with a woman, even when you don’t know her at all”.
4. Don’t Have Too Many Expectations
One thing in particular shy guys do is they may talk to an attractive girl for a few seconds and then put too much meaning into the interaction. They may start fantasizing about the girl like I said above. They may go out of their way to pass her in the hallway. They may even stalk her photos on Facebook.
The key to avoiding this issue is to talk to girls without having a hidden agenda to make her your one true love. Don’t have too many expectations about a future relationship with any one particular girl until you have spent a decent amount of time getting to know her.
5. Keep Trying No Matter How Many Times You Have Been Rejected
“Think of every FAILED ATTEMPT AS JUST A PRACTICE RUN, if you think of every rejection or every conversation that leads to nowhere as just being a test run, a practice, then it will not have as big of an impact on you as if you think of it as being just another sign that you suck with women, you probably DON’T suck with women as much as you think you do, and when it starts to “click” and you start to get more and more dates with women, then you will look back on all of those failed attempts as just being either funny or a lesson learned and nothing more
“Even though it can be intimidating at first, and you might think that you have nothing worth saying, the more times that you get out there, you will discover how to talk to women in a way that builds intense attraction”.